Tantric sex, sacred sexuality & tantra

Tantra is also part of ancient Hindu and Buddhist practices and can be practiced at a deeper level as a spiritual path. Tantra is also about lowering our boundaries so that we can experience the world in a more ecstatic and “life enhancing” way. Tantra pulls us out of our normal realm of existence and into an exciting path that is all embracing, creative, loving and develops a deep feeling of connection with the world and beyond.

It is very much linked to our sexual energy, which in the western world is often saved for love making with our partners or on the other extreme with the obsession of achieving orgasm as soon as possible. This is often manifested by the intensity and short term gain of a one night stand, or the experience that swingers feel when meeting new couples or single to play with. Tantra goes much deeper then the orgasmic experience. It is a self development tool and a spiritual tool. It helps one get out of the mundane and into to the sensuality of our being. Raising awareness of body, mind and spirit is an integral part of this experience and ultimately this is channelled through the raising of sexual energy.

This approach can be started in some simple ways.

For women, it can be as simple as walking around your home naked, perhaps just wearing your favourite hat as an item of clothing. If you are in the country, again being naked helps you to get more in contact with nature. Raising awareness exercises could be getting up at dawn, and rolling around in the grass, allowing ones self to enjoy the freshly laid dew on the ground and hearing all of nature come alive as one enjoys this sensual experience. It could be smelling a rose, and breathing the energy into the body, gently allowing it to evoke the feelings of sensuality that a only a rose can bring.

For men, it could be refraining from sex for a few days and experimenting with the energy in a different, creative way. For example, by enjoying the increase in sensuality and maleness of ones being. It could be an opportunity for learning to strengthen the Prostate muscle. Many men have little awareness of that area of their bodies. The awareness becomes most intense just before orgasm, when a warm intense energy builds up and the prostate gland starts to twitch involuntary. At that point orgasm is almost a done thing but there is so much more that can be done with this energy, embracing orgasm whilst energising the body and our minds so that this feeling can go on throughout the day. Tantric practice for men is also helpful in changing the predatory, hunter type energy that can pervade in naturist settings when single males are around, or as seen in nightclubs “men on the pull” and transforming this energy into a more loving and sensual experience rather than goal oriented, “any women will do” orgasm.

Dancing is also a good way of unlocking our inner sexual energy and working with it in a playful way. It helps us to tap into our physical force and if practised in the right way, is an ideal form to experience tantra, especially in a group setting. By letting you body flow freely and getting in touch with music, particularly rhythmic music, you can let your body and mind run away with the sounds and the rhythm – and to do this with a complete lack of inhibition like you have never danced before – in other words to be able to dance as if no one was watching! When you can dance as if “no one is watching” you have reached the first level of tantra – to feel free and to express your energy in a creative way that is unique to you. By channelling this awareness and feelings into our sexual energy, a transformation can take place where we feel the same level of freedom in our sensuality and our sex. Sacred sexuality comes into play and we can experiment with the heightened sexuality in many ways. Our senses are all heightened – tasting food becomes ecstatic, touch becomes slow, sensual and sexual energy centres that were unknown to us, can rise to the surface. The palm of the hand can become an energy centre and lead to an orgasmic experience; the area between our sexual organs and the anus can become very sensitised and with practice can be used to raise sexual energy and create high levels of orgasmic experience.

Other techniques we use include the practice of Karezza, yoni and lingam massageTRO, the sacred spot and PC muscle awareness and development with or without the use of a crystal wand, amrita production, yab yum tantric sex positions and many others.

An important part of tantra is to also to learn to love and respect ourselves. A useful exercise is to stand naked in front of a mirror and slowly look at the whole of your body. One by one each part of the body is focused on and loving feelings are developed with each part. With practise the change in ones perception of our bodies can be quite profound and with opening up of love to our bodies, higher peaks of sexual energy, orgasmic release and loving sensuality will arise. This technique can also be practised in a more advanced way in a group setting – letting others look slowly over ones body and learning to feel comfortable with that (usually only practised on advanced courses). Again getting over such inhibitions helps us to be on the path of the tantric way of existence.

Another important aspect of tantra is leading an honest and authentic life. This has to be fully integrated into the tantric path and the challenges this poses on oneself strengthens our egos and ultimately helps us develop confidence and ecstatic states of being that integrate into our daily lives. Practising honesty and integrity requires us to look within and it also requires courage, partly because we are going against the grain of the Western world. It is often best developed by having friendships and connections on a regular basis with other spiritual seekers and tantrika’s.